Montessori Observation
February 18, 2026

Observation: Why its Important

  • Discoveries made through observation is the best way to provide for, in your environment, a way to support the natural development of children.

  • Through observation, Maria Montessori was the first to discover that it is important to provide child size materials and furniture, for example. 

  • When given the tools and materials to their size, they become fully capable human beings who can care for themselves, others, and the environment.


Challenges..


The greatest challenge to observation lies in our own preconceptions, prejudgments, and expectations. Montessori training focuses on discovering and transforming such obstacles within ourselves. But another great challenge is making the time to observe. Sometimes, when we observe it feels as if we aren’t ‘working’. But in fact, observation is the foundation of Montessori work. Embracing that fact will be a big step towards committing the time every day throughout the day to observe and discover – without prejudice – what children constantly reveal through their own activity. And only on the basis of those revelations can we plan effective responses.


WHAT TO LOOK FOR WHEN OBSERVING CHILDREN:



  • Concentration
  • Independence
  • Development of the will
  • Sensitive Periods
  • Human Tendencies


We are a natural scientist. Our job is to witness the unfolding learning in children. We are not talking about forming a hypothesis and testing it. A natural scientist will gather natural data patiently and objectively as to reflect, to arrive to a conclusion and take appropriate steps to respond.

Example: If a child is looking at another child's work intensely, this observation is the key to unlock the child's learning. 


CONCENTRATION


  • When the child spends their time working on a material for a good length of time.
  • Focused on their work
  • Not easily distracted by others in the environment

  • Concentration builds executive function: working memory, problem solving ability, etc. These skills carry on into adult hood.


INDEPENDENCE

How does he achieve independence? He does it by means of a continuous activity. How does he become free? By means of constant effort." (Montessori 1949, p.96) 


A child who take care of themselves, be it functionally, socially, or economocally, is able to take care of their greater environment. Supporting the growth of independence in the child supports the evolution of society and culture at large.


Role of the Adult:
Resist the temptation to intervene too quickly. Allow the child to receive organic feedback which enables the child to become a member of society, contribute, and participate in human solidarity. 


DEVELOPMENT OF THE WILL


"This flower looks kind of dry. I need to water it"


"There is only 5 pieces of paper and I used 2 already. 

I'll save the remaining paper for a friend."


In a silence activity, a child is able to restrict 

all impulses and movement until his name is called.


SENSITIVE PERIODS

Optimal period of time when the human is sensitive to environmental stimuli or impressions that are important for development.


There are 4 sensitive periods in the first plane (age group: birth to age 6):

  • Language
  • Order
  • Refinement of the senses
  • Movement


Observable manifestations:
when exposed to a good kind of order, the child will go home and try to organize his/her home. When exposed to the opposite, a child may appear emotional, restless, disruptive.


HUMAN TENDENCIES

  • Orientation
  • Order
  • Communication
  • To know/To reason
  • Abstraction
  • Imagination
  • Mathematical mind
  • Work
  • Repetition
  • Exactness
  • Activity
  • Manipulation
  • Self-perfection
  • Explore

Understand that we have 14 human tendencies. The Montessori concept focuses on the universal child and the potential as human beings to be transformed for the better through an environment that is grounded with their true natural learning desire.



When we develop ourselves as spiritual and scientific observers we are able to truly serve the children with love. The secrets of childhood reveal themselves to us through our observations and as Montessori suggests “Life acts of itself, and in order to study it, to divine its secrets or to direct its activity, it is necessary to observe it and to understand it without intervening—this idea, I say, is very difficult for anyone to assimilate and to put into practice” (The Montessori Method 88). 

The practice and art of observation must become a habit of mind, fully engrained in us, never to be abandoned or neglected. We must diligently attend to what is in front of us, to the smallest details. As we move along the path, side by side with the child, we strive to prepare both the environment and ourselves to support the spontaneous activity of children, in an atmosphere of freedom. Observation is our core and most ardent ally in these fundamental preparations. It protects the integrity of the method and the work of the child. It fuels our understanding of each unique individual child allowing us to truly serve her needs in an exact and thoughtful manner. 

Montessori reminds us, “As we observe children, we see the vitality of their spirit, the maximum effort put forth in all they do, the intuition, attention and focus they bring to all life’s events, and the sheer joy they experience in living” (The Child, Society, and the World 99). Be as the children, and we will thrive; we will become joyful observers. 








February 18, 2026
PSYCHOLOGICAL PREPARATION: REFLECT ON ATTITUDES & EXPECTATIONS Important to treat toilet awareness as a process rather than an immediate outcome. If we are process driven, it eliminates the need to use manipulation, rewards, shame, or excessive pressure. We call it toilet “awareness” because we’re supporting a process of awareness in children which leads to natural, innate independence. Understanding the Child Are they ready? Control of movement: Can they sit? Stand? Hide when they go in their diaper? Communicate that they need a change? Take off their diaper? Participate in dressing? Crisis of Self-Affirmation (Oppositional crisis): 18 mos to 3 yrs (says “No”, separate being) What is their “normal” with elimination? Disposable? Expect resistance with creating a new normal. What are the Goals? First goal: Normalizing the toilet Talk about it Use toileting language Second goal: Internalizing a new habit Creating & supporting the internalization of new routines and associations with toileting (i.e. when I’m wet, it’s time to sit on the toilet and put on dry underwear). Consistency Language Use language that builds children’s self-confidence. Avoid shaming. Use affirmative language and refrain from negative comments about their elimination (i.e. “Peew! You’re stinky!”). Avoid saying “accident” which has negative connotations. Use factual language such as, “you are wet”, “you have a bowel movement”, “your poop goes in the toilet and then we flush it down”. Avoid praise (reality-based experiences, nurture innate motivation vs. external). Celebrate successes to yourself in private. Preparation Child sized & at child’s level A simple potty chair that’s easy to clean and/or a toilet seat w/ step stool Hamper or container for soiled clothes Stool or a chair for dressing and undressing Storage for clean/extra clothes (basket) Toilet paper/wipes Stairs/stool for the sink Clothing for Independence What do we mean by “independence”? Clothing that supports success because that builds confidence in children! Clothing that is easy to take on/off for small hands Lots of cloth underwear! Cloth gives an immediate feeling of elimination Keep pants-less if possible because it offers more success when there are fewer items of clothing to take off before sitting on the toilet Easy to pull-up pants Avoid tight leggings, drawstrings, buttons, and zippers Shoes with velcro On the go: Pidd le pad (carseat) Underwear Covers TIPS FROM MONTESSORI GUIDES  Prepare the environment with your child and name the items (encourages normalization and order). Get into a routine that does things in the same order. (Sound like a broken record? You’re doing it right!) Model or have other children model using the toilet. Check yourself! Your frustration will almost certainly be met with more resistance from your child Relax and your child will too Use intentional language. (Avoid praise & shame. Use affirmative and matter-of-fact language.) Remember that this is a process and adjust expectations. Don’t get too attached to the ultimate outcome. Wait until they are finished with a task to offer the toilet. Less likely to go if they’re interrupted. Don’t ask permission. State clear and consistent expectations (“It’s time to sit on the toilet”). Use “When” and “Then” statements Eliminate words as you repeat statements (“Sit. Toilet.”; simplified language = easier to process). Give Two Choices (supports oppositional crisis, gives toddlers control) Never force a child to use the toilet. Tantrums are not the right time to state expectations. If a tantrum has erupted, it has shifted into calming their bodies.
February 18, 2026
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