The Importance of the Kindergarten Year
March 14, 2024

Many public school systems offer kindergarten, and many parents are curious about this transitional year. Why should your child stay in Montessori for the kindergarten year?


Learning for Mastery


Montessori schools are intentionally structured utilizing a three-year cycle. There are many great benefits to this, but one of them is to provide third year students with opportunities that they will not have in other environments.


Having spent the previous two years learning a multitude of skills in their classroom, the third year is about mastery. The Montessori curriculum is a series of carefully developed lessons and materials that are meant to cycle back to a culminating experience during the final year.


All that time spent grasping knobbed cylinders, tracing metal insets, and practicing sandpaper letter formation? The kindergartner uses all that knowledge as they begin to write with paper and pencil.


The years of early mathematical preparation? Now they get to use the golden beads (or perhaps the stamp game material) to learn to add and subtract numbers into the thousands (yes, as kindergartners!).


Montessori’s early focus on teaching children sounds in lieu of letter names leads many children to begin reading by the time they are in kindergarten. 


Children as Independent Leaders


Not only do guides observe children mastering these skills independently, but the children have the chance to teach to others. Educators across many settings will agree that once the student becomes the teacher, we can surmise that true mastery has been attained.


So while your kindergarten child is teaching younger children how to do something, they are showing us just how well they know how to do it. Not only that - they are gaining confidence in a truly authentic way. No one needs to tell the child how well they are doing because they feel it themselves.


When children teach children, it’s not just about knowledge being shared, but also about cultivating world citizens. Teaching each other is an act of kindness, and a way for children to practice helping others around them. 


Fueling the Spark


In Montessori classrooms one of our greatest tasks is to keep the fire burning inside children’s minds. We structure our work so that children may follow their passions and learn deeply about things that matter to them. We see each child as an individual and think one-size-fits-all educational approaches tend to extinguish the joy of learning.


Instead of drilling facts into children, we place materials before them so that they may discover the truths of the world themselves. Rather than asking them all to do the same thing at the same time, we value their choices and trust their educational process. It is the guide’s job to keep them on track, but they offer children the freedom that lets them deeply explore the learning that calls to their souls.


Five Key Differences Between Montessori and Conventional Schooling 


Conventional Montessori
Standardized testing begins at an early age. Teachers follow the student and assess through meticulous record-keeping.
Children are given assigned seats that are usually arranged in small groups or rows set by the teacher Children are free to choose their seating, as well as choosing to work individually or in small groups of their choice.
External rewards are used for praise, such as behavior charts, prizes, stickers, and letter grades. Children develop a sense of internal motivation. The joy of work itself is enough to keep the child engaged. Children are offered work that is beautiful and draws their attention, so there is no need for external praise or reward.
The teacher is the head of the classroom and in charge of the lesson plan. The teacher follows the student, giving lessons that the child is ready to learn. The child is the main focus in the classroom
Main goal is to deliver a standard-based curriculum. Main goal is to cultivate curious and empathetic world
February 18, 2026
PSYCHOLOGICAL PREPARATION: REFLECT ON ATTITUDES & EXPECTATIONS Important to treat toilet awareness as a process rather than an immediate outcome. If we are process driven, it eliminates the need to use manipulation, rewards, shame, or excessive pressure. We call it toilet “awareness” because we’re supporting a process of awareness in children which leads to natural, innate independence. Understanding the Child Are they ready? Control of movement: Can they sit? Stand? Hide when they go in their diaper? Communicate that they need a change? Take off their diaper? Participate in dressing? Crisis of Self-Affirmation (Oppositional crisis): 18 mos to 3 yrs (says “No”, separate being) What is their “normal” with elimination? Disposable? Expect resistance with creating a new normal. What are the Goals? First goal: Normalizing the toilet Talk about it Use toileting language Second goal: Internalizing a new habit Creating & supporting the internalization of new routines and associations with toileting (i.e. when I’m wet, it’s time to sit on the toilet and put on dry underwear). Consistency Language Use language that builds children’s self-confidence. Avoid shaming. Use affirmative language and refrain from negative comments about their elimination (i.e. “Peew! You’re stinky!”). Avoid saying “accident” which has negative connotations. Use factual language such as, “you are wet”, “you have a bowel movement”, “your poop goes in the toilet and then we flush it down”. Avoid praise (reality-based experiences, nurture innate motivation vs. external). Celebrate successes to yourself in private. Preparation Child sized & at child’s level A simple potty chair that’s easy to clean and/or a toilet seat w/ step stool Hamper or container for soiled clothes Stool or a chair for dressing and undressing Storage for clean/extra clothes (basket) Toilet paper/wipes Stairs/stool for the sink Clothing for Independence What do we mean by “independence”? Clothing that supports success because that builds confidence in children! Clothing that is easy to take on/off for small hands Lots of cloth underwear! Cloth gives an immediate feeling of elimination Keep pants-less if possible because it offers more success when there are fewer items of clothing to take off before sitting on the toilet Easy to pull-up pants Avoid tight leggings, drawstrings, buttons, and zippers Shoes with velcro On the go: Pidd le pad (carseat) Underwear Covers TIPS FROM MONTESSORI GUIDES  Prepare the environment with your child and name the items (encourages normalization and order). Get into a routine that does things in the same order. (Sound like a broken record? You’re doing it right!) Model or have other children model using the toilet. Check yourself! Your frustration will almost certainly be met with more resistance from your child Relax and your child will too Use intentional language. (Avoid praise & shame. Use affirmative and matter-of-fact language.) Remember that this is a process and adjust expectations. Don’t get too attached to the ultimate outcome. Wait until they are finished with a task to offer the toilet. Less likely to go if they’re interrupted. Don’t ask permission. State clear and consistent expectations (“It’s time to sit on the toilet”). Use “When” and “Then” statements Eliminate words as you repeat statements (“Sit. Toilet.”; simplified language = easier to process). Give Two Choices (supports oppositional crisis, gives toddlers control) Never force a child to use the toilet. Tantrums are not the right time to state expectations. If a tantrum has erupted, it has shifted into calming their bodies.
February 18, 2026
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